God made men and women with differences. We compliment each
other's weaknesses with our individual strengths. We serve in different
functions in our union, which enhances our productivity. Men and women actually
have the same basic needs, but we want them provided for in different ways.
Sadly, these differences often drive a wedge between two people.
When a woman thinks of romance, she envisions sweet
gestures, thoughtful gifts and romantic words. They want focused attention and
help around the house. When a man thinks of romance, he pictures a trip
together to the sporting goods store, or the fishing hole or the hockey game. Many men believe that "bringing home the bacon" is enough work for one person and
they resent family expectations.
Women want their man to look nice; but whether he is in
jeans or a fine suit, it does not really matter. Most men like their women to
look like a supermodel. They do not want their wife walking around with
uncombed hair and no make-up, or in a tattered t-shirt and jeans. Men
appreciate it when women make an effort to look and smell their best.
There are exceptions, but women usually find it easier to
express their feelings and to communicate what they need and want. Many men
find it hard to communicate. It is easier for them to show their love than to
say it. Some even bottle up their feelings and an avalanche of accumulated
resentment finally buries their love. The couple ends up frustrated and growing
apart.
As virtual strangers, the only hope we have is for both genders to honestly communicate with each other and to volunteer how we feel and
what we need rather than to keep our partner guessing. We can ask our mate to
stop doing something that offends us, to start doing something we are failing
to receive or to change the way we both do things and to serve one another as
Christ serves the church (Galatians 5:13).
Prayer:
Father God, You are preparing us as the Bride of Christ. We
are learning Jesus' character and how to communicate with Him on an intimate
basis. Our love for Him grows with each passing day and we honestly share with
Him what we think and how we feel. Help us to do this same thing with one
another. This will improve our relationship and prevent many divorces. Remind
us to pray, praise and worship together.
Thought for the Day:
One way to create a mutually edifying relationship is to
learn how to communicate your feelings and needs effectively.
