Have you
ever told your self not to do something and then did it anyway? Did you ever
buy a dessert and plan to eat it a little each day and then end up eating it
all in one sitting? Do you ever catch yourself saying or doing something exactly
the way your parent did? Do we have multiple personalities? Why can’t we get it
together?
There is a
reason we do this, and the solution is simple. Humans are a triune being –
body, soul and spirit; and we have multiple ego states within our soul – Inner
Parent, Inner Child and Inner Adult. Our goal in life is for these three
ego-states to make peace with one another and then to positively affect our
body, soul and spirit as we walk in the center of God's Will for us.
Start to
analyze the conversations you have with your self. You will soon see a distinct
pattern: Childish desires, Parental restrictions or permissiveness, and a
rational Adult attempting to make peace between the two. It is important to
consider your Inner Child’s need to play and have treats, as well as to train
your Inner Parent to nurture your Inner Child and not to be demeaning and
restrictive or permissive and distant.
I had to
go to the library to borrow books on how to be a nurturing parent to learn how
to nurture. You may not have role models for this either and may benefit from
reading some books. Our thought processes fluidly fluctuate between one
ego-state to another. Pay attention to what you need and meet that need in
wholesome and appropriate ways.
We
commonly look to other people to read our mind and to nurture us and to provide
needed parameters around our life. However, we do not need anyone else to help
us to be a fulfilled individual. The goal is to become a connected human being
with all three ego-states functioning in cooperation with one another and with
the Spirit of God. God does this in us with one inner healing at a time.
Prayer:
Father
God, You call us to love others as we love our self (Mark
12:31). Yet, we forget
to love our self. Help us to treat our self with kindness, interest, nurture
and cherishing. Remind us to take our self seriously and to meet our own needs,
or to trust You to meet them for us, and to discipline any area in us that is
in disobedience to Your Word. This will keep us from overly indulging or from
belittling and demeaning our self and others. Let Your light shine within us
and affect every area of our life.
Thought
for the Day:
Analyzing
the transactions going on among our three ego-states will free us from having
to look to others to meet our needs.
(If you
have questions or would like more information, email me at:
kathleenbrdly@gmail.com
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