A man loves to be useful and to feel needed, admired,
accepted as he is and appreciated. As his wife, we are his biggest fan and most
vocal cheering section.
We encourage our husband, show him appreciation, leave
love notes in his briefcase or lunchbox, get excited at his accomplishments and
care about his day. We can ask him what he needs, and do all in our power to
help.
Our husband is not our mule and a paycheck. His role in
life is not to function as our servant. Even if we both work all day, and we
share the chores and child care, he should choose the chores he feels
comfortable doing.
When our husband has a day off, he needs some of that
time for himself. Family time is important, but he needs some of that time to
chill, to hang with his buds, to create in his shop, to surf the waves or the
internet, or to play his gaming device.
He decompresses his stress this way and can pay more
attention to the family during our time together. A date night is also
important for us as a couple…a time to play, laugh, make memories, form a
closer bond and do something fun.
If we make his favorite meals and have everything he
needs for the next day in plain view and ready for him before we go to bed, his
love for us will grow; and he will make more of an effort to care for our needs
as well.
If he is withdrawn, irritable, angry, or exhibiting any negative
emotions, we can give him some space and some time to work out his issues. We
can ask if there is anything we can do to help, and then follow through with
his requests.
When a disagreement occurs, we brainstorm and pray together
rather than just caving in to our partner or fighting to get our own way. Once God
shows us a scenario, which we both feel good about, we proceed with unity and
joy in our heart.
Prayer:
Father God, Your Word warns us that all of the forces of
hell, along with the temptations and disagreements of the world, unite to
destroy our marriage. We often join them and make life more difficult for our
partner.
Remind us that love never fails; so we can decide
together that divorce is never an option, since divorce shreds our family and
removes the support that our children need regardless of how old they are. Divorce
makes Your Church vulnerable, unstable and defeated.
Revive our marriages, O Lord, so that we can rejoice in You (Psalm
85:6). Satisfy us anew each new morning with your unfailing love, so we can
sing for joy and rejoice all the days of our life (Psalm 90:14).
Thought for the Day:
There is nothing, which happens in a marriage that cannot
be resolved, if both mates will prefer the other person, exhibit patience
during a disagreement, join forces during a trial and spend time enjoying one
another's company.
