God Uses Our Personaliity - The Sanguine

My purpose in discussing the various personalities is to help us to appreciate and to help one another. With different personalities we are better able to function in various aspects of life and to work together as a whole society. 

We can learn from one another and benefit from each other’s strengths, as we help each other with our weaknesses. We each have one of four predominant personality types with a few traits from the other types thrown into the mix. 

We may dislike some aspect of someone’s personality, but if we understand why they act as they do, it helps us to appreciate their good points rather than to focus on their negative aspects. 

It takes all sorts of people to make the world go around. The problem with personalities is that they are human and carnal.However, God is able to totally revamp our personality once we surrender our life to Him. 

He minimizes our weaknesses and enhances our strengths. The Sanguine personality is the last in my series:

The Sanguine personality is the life of the party. Give them plenty of time to be around other people. They love to talk, to tell stories and they have an appealing sense of humor. They captivate their audience with their enthusiasm and expressiveness. 

They make excellent actors. They are creative and colorful. Their energy and enthusiasm abounds. They make friends easily, but have very few deep, satisfying relationships.

They are compulsive talkers and exaggerate and elaborate on details. They are self-centered and have a loud laugh and voice. They tend to interrupt others in order for their opinion to be heard. 

They are demonstrative, bubbly and curious with wide-eyed innocence. They tend to be sincere at heart, they make life fun, and they can turn any disaster into something humorous.

They love to stir up excitement and to direct its flow. They prevent dull moments when they are around. They enjoy spontaneity and feel restricted by planning and routine. 

They are easily angered when they do not get their way and they never seem to grow up and mature. Never reject them, because it will devastate them. 

Tell them every day, that they are loved. Pamper them and nurture their need for attention. They dislike being alone.

They are appealing on the surface; however, some consider them phony and superficial. They tend to live only for the present, and dislike making plans for the future. They change their mind and mood without notice. 

Their inner child is their dominant ego state. They cannot remember names. Their enthusiasm often tires other people out. Their restless energy tends to get them in trouble at times. They complain when things do not go their way.

The Sanguine is the first to volunteer to help at home, at work and in the community, and are quite good at motivating others to help them. They thrive on compliments and look for the credit to be given to them. 

This makes them envied by others. They make decisions based on feelings and are easily distracted and have a penchant for wasting time.They are undisciplined and forget important appointments and obligations. 

They do not follow through on projects or keep priorities in order. They are disorganized and do not have the patience to listen to the whole story. They are fickle, forgetful and they make excuses for their failings. 

They need to keep a steady job in order to provide for their family. Help them, only when they ask for it.

They may be jealous when their significant others spend time away from them or with other people. 

Assure them of your affection for them and that you miss them. If they ever have to go away from home, they need to call home frequently, watch TV, listen to the radio and read books about people to reduce their anxiety about being alone. 

They can learn to find their joy in the Lord by deepening their personal relationship with Him and spending time in God’s Word.They can volunteer in children’s ministry, because children are always quick to give love.

Touching is very important to them. You can hold their hand, or touch their shoulder when you are talking to them. They rarely hold a grudge, and they apologize quickly. 

Provide them with an abundance of emotional and physical affection. Consistently commend them for their achievements and the service they render. Encourage them to put others above their self and to compliment their self when they do a good job.

Prayer:

Father God, help us to develop a relationship with You and fill our life with the love and attention we need. Please open doors for us to help others with our unique strengths. Comfort us when we are away from our loved ones. Reduce our penchant for sexual sins. 

Help us not to follow the crowd into sin, but to desire to please You more than our self and other people. Align our words and behavior with the precepts of Your Word. Enable us to deal constructively with our anger. Help us to grow secure in Your love for us, which will diminish our fear of rejection.

Thought for the Day:

Never condemn a Sanguine, but encourage them when they succeed. They can learn to anticipate the consequences of their actions in order to curb their impulsiveness and emotional outbursts.

References:

·        http://www.pastoral-counseling-center.org/Free-Temperament-Reports/Choleric-Helpful-Hints.htm

·        http://temperaments.fighunter.com/?page=phlegmatic

·        http://www.fighunter.com/index.php?page=temperaments

·       http://www.womenschristiantherapy.com/Phlegmatic_Personality_Type.pdf

·        http://www.refinedperspectives.com/personality-explained.html

God Uses Our Personality - The Phlegmatic

My purpose in discussing the various personalities is to help us to appreciate and to help one another. With different personalities we are better able to function in various aspects of life and to work together as a whole society. 

We can learn from one another and benefit from each other’s strengths, as we help each other with our weaknesses.We each have one of four predominant personality types with a few traits from the other types thrown into the mix. 

We may dislike some aspect of someone’s personality, but if we understand why they act as they do, it helps us to appreciate their good points rather than to focus on their negative aspects. 

It takes all sorts of people to make the world go around. The problem with personalities is that they are human and carnal. However, God is able to totally revamp our personality once we surrender our life to Him. He minimizes our weaknesses and enhances our strengths. 

The Phlegmatic personality is the third in my series:
Phlegmatics are shy and quiet, low-keyed and relaxed, and accused of being boring. They never seek personal glory, nor do they push their own opinion or agenda. 

They are trustworthy, loyal, calm, kind, sympathetic and consistent. They like routine and can do work which is boring and requires perfection. They are easy going and show little passion, because they lack in confidence and are afraid of doing something wrong.

They make competent, reliable, dependable and steady workers. They avoid conflict and would rather change themselves than to cause a disagreement. They feel nervous and upset in an argument and prefer to just give in and take the blame on themselves or forfeit their own wishes. 

However, they are great negotiators and peacemakers. They use humor and wit to diffuse a tense or awkward situation. They do well in jobs with tedious, meticulous elements that do not include much interaction with people. 

They like to focus and excel in one area, rather than to multi-task. They remain calm in confusion and stress. They tend toward procrastination, especially when unsure of what to do. They learn to make decisions according to the Will of God and look to Him to defend them. 



They are submissive and good listeners. They will always pay attention, and will offer supportive feedback rather than criticism or advice. They quietly and politely take in and absorb the conversations of their friends. 

They have few goals or aspirations of their own and they are in no hurry. They are observers rather than doers. They lack in discipline, organization and are overly compromising - all to their detriment. 

Phlegmatic people are meek and inoffensive. They are submissive introverts who live to please others. Friendly with everyone, they are well liked. They are affectionate without smothering or distancing. 

However, they need very little social interaction. Do not force them to socialize or make them responsible for any person or issue, because this drains their limited energy reserves. God helps them to develop deep, personal relationships a little at a time, as they rely on His strength. 

They hide their emotions and do not get upset easily. They are not likely to express more than a smile or a frown. God teaches them to show their deeper feelings in ways that are more comfortable for them and meaningful to others.  

They are almost immune to anger. They have extremely long fuses, and will only snap after a long period of prolonged and persistent abuse.Even then, they are more likely to retreat within their self or cry than to harm others.  

They internalize issues and problems, rather than to speak their mind. They may feel critical of others and prefer not to get involved or sacrifice for others. They tend toward self-righteousness and are stubborn, often set in their ways. God teaches them through His Word to see the needs, rights and feelings of others. 

They have trouble with saying “No” to anyone. However, in a conflict or when they feel abused, they end up feeling like a martyr. God helps them to show more outward support for the issues and injustices, which they really feel concerned about.  

They enjoy spending time with friends, and are very loyal to these friends, sticking with them through thick and thin, even through abuse.

They do not like change and panic in new situations. They dislike pressure, resent being controlled and do not like to take any risks. They are good followers and they are stressed when ask to lead. 

They do not crave excitement and dislike winning a competition or a game. They do not seek thrills, and enjoy predictable, quiet, ritualistic lifestyles.
They struggle with making a decision and prefer to have others make decisions for them. We can help them in their decision-making by giving them the pros and cons in a situation and helping them to think through all the ramifications in order to make their own decisions. 

God teaches them to depend on Him for His opinion, rather to care so much about the opinion of other people.

Phlegmatics will unthinkingly make humorous remarks about the rights and feeling of others. They often have a wry, cutting sense of humor, which they use as a defense to protect themselves from the energy drain on their emotions when involved in more meaningful relationships.   

Do not take their reticence personally. We can help them by not demanding physical attention and by doing things for them instead.




Prayer:
Father God, we Phlegmatics are deep spiritually. We understand faith and practice, and we are solid and dependable in our commitment to You. You gave us the character of loyalty and You help us to remain faithful. 

We love Your Body and serving them. Help us to learn that submission to You unlocks our potential. Teach us to be more open and loving to others through our relationship with You and to learn that only through expending energy and becoming deeply involved with personal relationships can we reach maturity.

Thought for the Day:
Phlegmatics have a tendency to deal with their personal relationships with Christ in the same way they do any other deep relationship, as a spectator who does not get too deeply involved. As they submit to the Will of God they are less stubborn and more relational. 

References:

·        http://www.pastoral-counseling-center.org/Free-Temperament-Reports/Choleric-Helpful-Hints.htm

·        http://temperaments.fighunter.com/?page=phlegmatic

·        http://www.fighunter.com/index.php?page=temperaments

·      http://www.womenschristiantherapy.com/Phlegmatic_Personality_Type.pdf

God Uses Our Personality - The Choleric

My purpose in discussing the various personalities is to help us to appreciate and to help one another. With different personalities we are better able to function in various aspects of life and to work together as a whole society. 

We can learn from one another and benefit from each other’s strengths, as we help each other with our weaknesses. We each have one of four predominant personality types with a few traits from the other types thrown into the mix. 

We may dislike some aspect of someone’s personality, but if we understand why they act as they do, it helps us to appreciate their good points rather than to focus on their negative aspects. It takes all sorts of people to make the world go around. 

The problem with personalities is that they are human and carnal. However, God is able to totally revamp our personality once we surrender our life to Him. He minimizes our weaknesses and enhances our strengths. 

The Choleric personality is the first in my series: A choleric person is usually dynamic, influential, determined, independent, unemotional and dogged in the pursuit of their goals and dreams. They are bull-headed in many instances and do not discourage easily. 

The choleric is a good entrepreneur or a valuable sportsperson. They have so much confidence that they can take charge of any situation and make it successful. They usually are so busy with success in their chosen field that they have little time for family, ministry for the Lord or any other area of life that does not bring financial success and recognition.

A choleric will grow impatient with others and people find it hard to relax in their presence. They tend to be bossy, busy, quick-tempered, argumentative, uncompassionate and impulsive. They are driven and may drive others too. 

This may make others feel inadequate or depressed. They use, domineer and drive those around them to the point that others may avoid them; however they need and have very few friends. They seem to know it all and are very possessive of what is theirs.

However, they are assets in the workplace. They love change and have a compulsive need for variety in their life. They think that their way is right; and they have an answer for everything. They have no qualms about correcting what they perceive as faults in others, and they tend to be inflexible. 

They look at the whole picture and prefer to delegate the details. They have immediate and practical solutions to any problem and excel in emergencies. They are goal-oriented, organized, problem solvers, intense and they demand loyalty. 

They delegate to others, stimulate activity from others; and, as a result, motivate high production. They are born leaders, love challenges and thrive on solving problems and achieving success. Their decisions tend to be quick, decisive and sometimes rather tactless. 

They do not like to be forced to socialize or to do something they do not want to do. A choleric needs recognition for their accomplishments and opportunities to have their needs met. They need to be the leader at work, home and other areas of involvement. 

They love to make decisions and are good at it, so give them opportunities to be responsible for events and projects. Do not interfere with them, but give them full reign to use their potential. Learn to negotiate with them, rather than bucking their decisions.

Provide them with love and affection when they want it, but be careful not to smother them. They appreciate acts of service and cooperation more than physical touch and affection. They are uncomfortable around emotional outbursts, so learn to be more cognitive in your reactions to them. 

They will increase performance from others if they learn to be kinder, to slow down and look at all of the ramifications of their decisions and instruction before making them.

They will also have a more well-rounded personality, if they allow God to teach them to adopt people skills and to show more mercy and understanding of how their decisions will affect other people. 

Relaxing on vacations and in family time will help to mellow out the sharp edges of their personality. Surrendering their life to God will increase their productivity and soften their reactions to another person’s weaknesses.

Prayer:

Father God, Your Spirit helps us to replace painful memories, which inspire anger and vengeance, with opportunities to make happy memories. You enable us to control our anger. Help us to validate the rights and feelings of others rather than to employ strict methods to control or change them. 

Teach us to find our recognition from You and to recognize that our best success comes from You. Help us to have compassion and patience with the imperfections and idiosyncrasies in others.

Thought for the Day:

The choleric rebels against God when they think He is trying to control them; however, submission to His will unlocks their potential for fully achieving their ultimate goals.

References:

·        http://www.pastoral-counseling-center.org/Free-Temperament-Reports/Choleric-Helpful-Hints.htm

·        http://temperaments.fighunter.com/?page=phlegmatic

·        http://www.fighunter.com/index.php?page=temperaments

·       http://www.womenschristiantherapy.com/Phlegmatic_Personality_Type.pdf