Showing posts with label reconcilliation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label reconcilliation. Show all posts

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Trusting God's Will and Timing

Read: Matthew 24:12-13

Why are you in despair O my soul? And why have you become disturbed within me? Hope in God, for I shall again praise Him for the help of His presence.” - Psalm 42:5

The reconciliation provided by Jesus was given to us, but also to those who lived before Him. God put the penalty of their sin on “layaway” and forgave everyone who put their trust in Him, in the same way that He forgives us today. God revealed His righteousness to men and women throughout the ages. Once they recognized the holiness of God, they realized their sinful state and how wrecked they actually were. They also comprehended that those that they lived around were as sinful as they were. Isaiah is one such example (Isaiah 6:3). Once Isaiah repented, God took away his guilt and atoned for his sin, just like He does for us (Isaiah 6:7).

Then, after Isaiah repented of his sinful life, God revealed His will to him. The prophet responded with the legendary words, “Here I am, send me” (Isaiah 6:8). Isaiah had no idea what encumbrances and turmoil lay ahead of him, but he knew that he could trust the living Lord. We have this same confidence, as we follow God’s will for our life each moment of the day. Isaiah had trial and triumphs, just like we do. He remained faithful to God’s calling throughout all of his life. We have this same privilege. God gives us His grace and provides for all of our needs, as we trust in His will and His timing.

God also gives us His anointing to accomplish what He calls us to do (2 Corinthians 9:8). Yet, so many refuse to respond to God’s call on their life. They put so much time and effort into providing for their temporal needs that they forget the importance of the eternal needs in their life and in the lives of all of those God wants them to influence. Our life is but a vapor (James 4:14), a fading flower, withering grass and a fleeting shadow (1 Peter 1:24; Job 14:2). The seasons of our life change as quickly as the seasons of the year, although we are not always ready to face the changes time brings our way.

We start in the springtime of our life, growing and learning through the excitement of school days with family and friends. We live through the fiery trials of summertime with a mundane job, the pain of childbirth, love found and possibly even lost again, as well as dissatisfaction from what we failed to accomplish and mourning the loss of our youth. Then we have the contented autumn of the golden years of our life. We see joy in the little things that we were previously too busy to notice. We have less, but we know it is really more. So quickly life slips into the bareness of winter with an aging body, the loss of energy and drive, fears of dying and the ache of losing family and friends too soon.

Through every season of life, faith and confidence in God’s loving kindness sees us through the valleys, as well as the climb up the mountains on the other side. He gives us a future and a hope that brings multiple blessings into our life (Jeremiah 29:11). We can encourage our soul through every season, just as King David did through his colorful lifetime (Psalm 42:5). He lived a life of praise to God, and relished the fact that God inhabited his praises (Psalms 22:3). Isaiah lived in the will of God for his whole life, living it to the fullest measure of the anointing of God. God asks this same commitment from all of us.

Prayer:
Lord Jesus, although our life is fraught with heart-rending trials, our hope in Your faithfulness endures. Remind us of the benefits of serving You so that our heart will not grow cold in these last days. Help us to grow spiritually and to mature into God’s children as we share in Your inheritance. Remind us to consider the trials we face with joy, because we know that our growing faith will help us to endure to the end of our life. This perseverance will do its perfect work until we are mature and complete, lacking no good thing because of Your love (James 1: 2-4).

Thought for the Day:
The truth that life is temporary puts eternity into its proper perspective.

 

 

 

Saturday, June 16, 2012

Expressing Negative Emotions

Read: Ephesians 4:21-32

“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.” - Ephesians 4: 15

In times of tension and miscommunication, God recommends that we are quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger (James 1:19). Anger is actually a God-given emotion used to protect us from injury, not to inflict injury. Anger is a flag to let us know that something is wrong. God cautions us, however, to be slow to express it, and to guard against crossing over into sinful behavior with this possibly volatile emotion (Ephesians 4:26).

The feelings of anger or resentment in our soul inform us that someone else’s behavior is offensive to us. Once we recognize this breach of our boundaries, then we can help the other person to understand that what they just did or said is not acceptable to us. People will behave toward us in the way in which we teach them to treat us. If we allow others to abuse us - verbally, mentally or physically - we are inviting more of that same behavior in the future.

However, we can develop a habit of using premeditated wording to express our feelings, rather than to use hasty, angry words to verbally attack the offending party. Rather than to attack in anger, I learned to say:
“I feel afraid when you …”
“I feel like you spend more time with …. than with me. I need more of your attention.”
“Thank you for your opinion, but I do not agree with you.”
“I will walk away if you say/do that again.”
“I think that you misunderstood the meaning behind my words/actions. Let me further explain to you how I feel (or why I took that action).”

We can learn to stand up for our self without hiding behind fierce anger and coarse words (Ephesians 5:4). In the face of confrontation, I still make it known in no uncertain terms that the offensive behavior is no longer acceptable to me; however, I try to respond with a confident, businesslike and resolute manner. Even in the face of a verbal onslaught, I endeavor to state my feelings more clearly with firm, calm words rather than with angry, irrational ones (Proverbs 15:1).

My husband and I even use a notebook to write out our feelings to one another. This way we do not speak off the top of our head and potentially hurt one another. We also write our positive feelings in our notebook. They are such cherished keepsakes.

Some people may never learn to treat us with respect; and they may never change their behavior towards us. These people are not safe. We need a firm boundary between them and us. It is better to steer a wide path around such people who tend to abuse us, rather than to constantly put our self in harm’s way. When we take a step back and look at their actions from a spiritual frame of mind, we can pray for them and also about our response to them by speaking firmly, but kindly in the face of any imposition from them or any attack against us.

God encourages us to live at peace with everyone (Romans 12:18). We cannot ever control another person’s actions or responses towards us, but we can put distance between an abusive person and us. However, I want to caution you not to overreact and divorce your mate. A separation for the purpose of reconciliation through counseling and calm discussions is far better and more in line with Biblical teaching.
There is no justification for divorce except for sexual immorality, according to Biblical principles (Matthew 19:6; Matthew 5:32).

I also take my hurt feelings to the Lord. He helps me to forgive the offender and to pray for their blessing, whether they ever respond positively to me or not. How they feel about me or what they think of me has no bearing on who I am or on my relationship with my Lord. In reality, His opinion of me is the only one that really matters.

Prayer:
Lord Jesus, help me to put away slander, malice, coarse words and explosive anger. Remind me to use positive words to communicate how I feel and how I want to be treated. Let me kindly tell the truth in love, even when it hurts.

Thought for the Day:
“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.” - Proverbs 25:11



(Many thanks to Matt Milligan for the use of his cheerful photo.)