The practice of rebounding occurs during
basketball, but also during dating relationships. It is used to describe a new relationship,
which occurs by ricocheting from the door slamming on a past relationship. The
person who is rebounding falls for one of the first people to give them
attention after their divorce, and they quickly form a commitment without
consulting the Lord.
This is tragic. In new relationships, we
should take our time and seek the Lord's will in them. We need to pay attention
to every red flag that pops up during our interaction with this new person. It
is far better to live alone than to shackle oneself to someone, which is not
God’s will for us (Proverbs 21:9, 25:24; Proverbs 17:1).
We need to spend quality and quantity of time with any new person.
Carnal attraction is the main reason many
people choose a mate; yet, this wanes with familiarity. If we do not develop a
friendship and a genuine caring connection, our new relationship may not
weather life’s storms either. We will end up in another bad situation and
heading for divorce court all over again.
Instead, use your time as a single person to
minister as the Lord directs, join group activities to cultivate new
friendships and work in church ministries to meet people who share your common
bond of faith. If God wants you married, He will bring along a new mate in His
timing. He may take longer than you would like, because He wants to work out
issues in your personality and soul, which need healing first.
Prayer:
Father God, sometimes divorce is inevitable,
especially in cases of infidelity or if our partner is determined to leave us.
Please help us to focus on our relationship with You in our times of grief and
solitude. Remind us that watching romantic movies and reading novels will
reinforce our feelings of loneliness. Keep us from rebounding or using
addictions to fill the void in our life. The deeper we delve into Your Word,
Your people and Your ministries, the less lonely we will feel and the more Your
joy will fill our heart. Joy and contentment in You will ease our feelings of
isolation and disappointment.
Thought for the Day:
Listening to Christian worship and hanging out
with the Body of Christ, as we focus on God's will for our life, will help to
fill our soul with God's peace, joy and love.
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