Due to the insecurity and fear in life, many of us
attempt to control people and events in order to maintain a safe and secure
existence. Unfortunately, life never cooperates.
People who are wounded in their soul form relationships
with other wounded people. In fact, we are all wounded to some extent or
another due to our life experiences.
When we are wounded, we often choose untrustworthy
people to trust, unreliable people to rely upon, and emotionally unavailable people
from which we attempt to receive love. We end up more wounded than ever before.
If we are already in such a marriage relationship,
God does not want us to divorce (Malachi 2:16). He will change us, which will
also help to change our mate. The transition is gradual and it will take patience
and time.
If you are not already married, then practice
spiritual discernment and seek only God’s will for your future mate (Psalm 37:34).
Trust God to lead you to His selection for your
mate. Walk in serenity and realize that when God wants you to be married, He
will supply a mate.
As we learned from the Serenity prayer in Part 1
of Healing Relationships, we can only find fulfillment as we focus on eternal
aspects of life and walk in God’s Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).
This changes our belief system, our choices and
our pattern of behavior.
Prayer:
Father God, thank You for healing the wounds of
our past as You sanctify our soul and make us whole. Help us to focus on
eternal matters in life and to put the matters of our soul in Your capable
hands.
You will bring us everything that we need in life
when we need it. If we do not have what we want, we can be assured that it is
not Your time for us to have it.
If it is not Your will for us to have the desires
of our heart, then you will change our desires to line up according to Your
Will. Help us to wait patiently on You (Psalm 37:7, 40:11).
Thought for the Day:
Securing counseling as a couple will teach each
partner how to live in a healthy, interdependent relationship; this way, you
will grow together instead of apart.
*For healing the wounds of our past, start by
reading my post: http://fulfilledchristianlife.blogspot.com/2012/08/part-1-healing-emotional-wounds.html
