When our soul begins to heal, our
personality, behavior and beliefs change. This may put our partner on the
defensive and cause them to feel insecure.
Our relationship changes from
independent, dependent or codependent to interdependent, and our family and
friends are not used to it.
The healthy changes, which we make,
will bring healing in our body, soul and spirit. It will help us to establish
an interdependence with our mate, as they get used to the changes.
It will limit our negative reactions to
one another, improve feelings of self-worth, change the way we meet our own
needs and give us more energy to serve others as God’s Spirit leads us according
to His will, rather than by codependent urges.
Intimacy increases, expectations
decrease, and in conflict we blend differing ideas into a whole new concept on
which we both agree. We are mutually interdependent with one another.
Unresolved disagreements cause a
couple, which normally live in an atmosphere of cooperation, to form
independent lives that disrupt their interdependence.
Interdependence means that it is
healthy to have differing ideas, hobbies, interests, likes and dislikes,
because these differences bring variety to the relationship.
Interdependence is living in a mutually
reciprocal relationships. It is about forming intimate connections with another
human being. We share the decision-making process in our relationship and
mutually care about one another’s welfare and feelings.
We are conscious in our choices, own
responsibility for the consequences of our actions, and readily admit when we
are wrong.
We enjoy deeper, more meaningful
associations, and greater productivity, service, contribution and growth in our
relationship.
We cherish, appreciate, admire, respect, enjoy, love and
care about one another, and we never miss an opportunity to affirm and to validate
one another.
Prayer:
Father God, help those of us with wounds from the past to
heal and to have the wisdom and courage to develop an interdependent
relationship with our partner, children, co-workers, associates and church
family.
Give us patience with them as they too heal from the
wounds of their past. Then allow us to serve You together in our individual
gifts and calling, according to Your will for each of our lives.
Thought for the Day:
Interdependent relationships bring harmony and enjoyment
to any marriage, partnership or community.
