A crisis in a marriage calls for immediate action. We can either drift
apart ending in bitterness, unforgiveness and probably divorce; or we can pull
together, brainstorm for an equitable solution and pray together as we walk in
the Spirit.
Divorce is never an option. It destroys lives - especially the life of
the children involved in the marriage. They often feel abandoned, at fault for
the divorce, and they inevitably question their parents' love for them.
They never learn to resolve conflict in their own relationships and
often end up with the same results. Thankfully, a few of them will make wise
choices and find mates that balance their personality or are willing to
compromise and find common ground.
There is nothing more fulfilling in this earthly realm than to have a
mate that cherishes us and thinks of us above him/her self. One that will laugh
with us - not at us, enjoy hobbies together and serve God right alongside each
other.
There is no fear in this type of love. We have the confidence that our
partner will not throw us away like a sack of trash. They will help us to
overcome our fears and insecurities and to love us in spite of them.
It is hard to feel secure when our partner does not allow unconditional
love to flow from them to us. We are always on edge and never sure of our place
in their heart, because we feel their condescension and derision.
God's love is unconditional. A commitment of Agape love in our marriage,
shown in action and especially in word, will eradicate our fears and
insecurities and give us a solid faith on which to stand (1 John 4:18).
We can count on Him to walk in and with us through every trial we experience
in our marriage (Isaiah 43:1; Psalm 23:4). He infuses both marriage partners
with His fruit in order to dwell together with understanding and unity.
Prayer:
Father God, an anxious heart wears us down, but consistent love from
our mate goes a long way in building us up (Proverbs 12:25). Remind us not to
allow discouragement in a troubled marriage to tear us down, because You are
always with us and in us regardless of where we are and with whom we live
(Joshua 1:9).
Help us not to worry when our mate grows distant from us, because You
care for us and will work in our life for our ultimate good (Matthew 6:34;
Romans 8:28; Isaiah 35:4; Luke 12:22-26). We humble our self before You and
leave all of our worries in Your capable hands, because You care about us and
will deliver us in Your timing and way (1 Peter 5:6-7; Psalm 55:22; Deuteronomy
31:6).
Thought for the Day:
The Lord is our Savior, not another person, vocation, place or thing; only
He can provide us with the security and fulfillment that we long to possess
during this lifetime. - Psalm 27:1
