As
humans, we value intimacy with both God and one another. In modern times, we
even have "Girls (Boys/Parents) Night Out" to develop more intimacy
with one another.
One
way to develop more intimacy with our spouse is to take the time to gaze into
one another's eyes. This can be done all at once or in short segments all day
long. The experts recommend a total of 15-20 minutes every single day.
This
does not need to accompany physical touch or talking; and definitely should not
be interrupted by distractions like text messages from work, family or friends,
nor television or computer.
When
we have time alone together, we can incorporate aspects we enjoy, as well as
activities we never tried before. Take that first free dance class and see if it
strikes a chord in both of you. Read a book together, walk on the beach or a
nature trail, ride bikes or visit with your best friends.
Chat
about your day when you reconnect each evening. Show compassion and laugh
together about the humorous aspects of your day. Encourage one another through
the challenges, and celebrate your successes together.
Over
the years of marriage, develop insider jokes or statements that only the two of
you understand. When appropriate, pull them out into the conversation and share
that intimate moment of laughter and understanding.
Marital
irritations will cause distress unless we change our focus about them. See
these issues as endearing events that can be cherished, and they will bring
about a feeling of comfort rather than irritation.
Instead
of allowing disagreements to drive a wedge between you, remember that you are
on the same side of life. Brainstorm to come up with an equitable solution that
meets everyone's needs. There is never just two side to any issue. The
possibilities are virtually endless if we take the time to discover them.
Prayer:
Father
God, help us to see our relationship with You in terms of intimacy. Teach us by
Your Word and the examples of Saints of old to discover the intimacy that You
prefer. Remind us to spend quality time with You: reading Your Word,
fellowshipping with Your Spirit, meditating on Your precepts, praising Your
goodness and majesty, and showing gratitude for Your provision.
Also
teach us to enjoy the times of companionable silence in Your presence, not
expecting You to speak, but just soaking up Your presence within us and in the
world around us. Help us to notice the multitude of blessings You shower us
with each and every day, and move us to break into spontaneous praise when we
do.
Thought
for the Day:
Intimacy is a vital part of every relationship; without it, our love will grow stale and lose its flavor.
Intimacy is a vital part of every relationship; without it, our love will grow stale and lose its flavor.
