There
are so many widows, widowers, divorcees, and single people in today's society
who are looking for fulfillment. They hope for a perfect match in a spouse, but
they often settle for second best, just because they are lonely and feel
incomplete.
Some
single people find the love of their life, they enjoy a fulfilling relationship
for many years; but then the relationship changes due to the stresses of life
and overly committed busyness.
This
starts a downward spiral that produces feelings of emotional and physical
hunger, because our mate does not fulfill our needs. Then, resentment, bitterness
and anger develop in our heart and fill our every thought.
We
all want intimacy, union, companionship, friendship and a deep, abiding love.
The desire of our heart is to find someone to understand us, respect us, and to
love us unconditionally for who we are.
We all need someone who will have compassion on our weaknesses, because they know that
they have issues too; someone who will appreciate our strengths and allow them to
help with their weaknesses, as their strengths help to heal our short-comings.
Yet,
people tend to disappoint us, break their promises to us, emotionally and
physically withdraw from or abuse us, and fill their life with busyness until
we are taken for granted, and are all but excluded from their schedule.
Men
generally crave respect, verbal affirmation, acts of service and admiration.
Women desire to feel cherished, appreciated, financially solvent, protected, as
well as to experience romance and intimacy.
Most
of us live an unfulfilled life, however. One reason for this is that our body
and soul are alive, but we are dragging around a spirit, which is dead in sin
that we inherited from our ancestors and that we perpetuate by our own carnal
lifestyle (Deuteronomy 5:9; Romans 5:12).
Jesus
promises to be our Redeemer, but also a mate to us (Isaiah 54:5-6). Unless our
spirit is Born Again by the Spirit of God through faith in the sacrifice Jesus
made on our behalf, we will never feel completely fulfilled.
When
we feel deserted, wounded in spirit and rejected by people, Jesus within us will
be our devoted and compassionate mate. His authentic Believers are His forever
bride (Hosea 2:16, 19; 2 Corinthians 11:2-4).
Prayer:
Father
God, prove to us that we do not need a mate to be happy in this life. We have
all we need in You, and You live within our spirit by Your Holy Spirit
(Galatians 2:20). If we are unhappy with our mate, help us to change our focus
to see the good in them, and not to focus on their annoying or discouraging points.
Help
us to aid one another to heal from our past wounds, and to walk in Your freedom
together. We know that You will fill the hole in our heart and put a mental and
emotional barrier between us and any abusive or neglectful behavior from our
spouse. We look to You and not to people to help us to feel fulfilled in this
life now and for all eternity.
Thought
for the Day:
If
a mate is what God desires for us, He will bring him/her along in His timing
and way - sometimes, in the most unexpected manner; as we seek Him first, He
will provide for us everything that we ever need.
