Are
you considering a divorce? Disappointments, broken promises, resentment, anger,
etc. will tear down bridges of positive feelings, and erect walls that separate
us and get thicker and higher with each passing day.
Humility
and forgiveness are the only keys to unlock the doors between us. Pride will
forever slam the doors shut. When God joins us together, it is for life. There
is no reason for divorce, when a separation is just as effective.
We
can take it upon our self to move in with a family member, get an apartment,
sleep in a different bedroom, etc. This gives us and our spouse some space to
cool off, think about our issues, forgive and apologize, and date - have fun
and laugh together.
We
slowly resolve issues that are trying to tear us apart. We pray together to hear
from God and determine to do His will. We do not insist on our own way, but we
work together to find a third option when we disagree about something.
Sin
begets more and deeper sins (Genesis 4:6-7). If we allow negative emotions and
thoughts to fuel our decisions and behavior, we are already getting in over our
head. If we do not take action (Philippians 4:8), a negative spiral of thoughts
and emotions will control our life.
As
authentic Believers, we can follow the leading of God's Spirit and share our
faith journey with our spouse, fellow-believers and trusted family members,
etc. This helps us to find solutions to issues and to connect with prayer power
to help us gain victory over our circumstances.
God
will also use us to minister to others (Luke 22:31-32) who are experiencing the
same issues that we just conquered. This helps them to find healing in much
quicker time, if they will learn from our mistakes and triumphs.
Prayer:
Father
God, teach us to rule over our negative emotions, to validate our feelings, and
then to turn issues over to You to deal with the behavior in our spouse that
triggered them. Heal us from past wounds that make us hide behind anger to
protect our self. We need You to point out to us every time we are in danger of
entertaining negative emotions and thoughts. Help us to overcome them prior to
them overcoming us.
Thank
You for sending Your Holy Spirit to sanctify us, so that He will replace our
human tendencies with His spiritual fruit (Galatians 5:22-23). Remind us that
journaling our undesirable feelings, or sharing with a trusted prayer partner
will help us to diffuse these troubling moods before we blow up. Then we can
meet with our mate and rationally express how their behavior made us feel. We
praise You for caring about every aspect of our life.
Thought
for the Day:
When
we are hurt, broken, overwhelmed, discouraged, etc, we can remember that God
cares about us even more than we care about our self; and He will show us a
positive manner in which to kindly share our honest feelings with our spouse.
