Friday, January 31, 2020

The Cure for Loneliness

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Many of us have mental, emotional and spiritual issues from our past that keep us feeling fearful and insecure. We tend to drag these issues around with us until we resolve them. Unresolved conflicts within our soul may ruin our current and future relationships.

For instance, loneliness is a major plight in today's busy world. Even if we have children, or are married, we can experience loneliness. Close friends may move away, or we may move away from them.

We often use addictions to mask our loneliness, which causes more isolation as well as physical, mental and emotional issues. Health issues may cause our loneliness, because they isolate us from the world around us.

We may have a personality that promotes our feelings of loneliness. Or an experience, such as a divorce, a fire, or a natural disaster may rob us of treasures that we hold dear, and cause us to feel depression and loneliness.

Thankfully, loneliness is a choice, and we can change that choice. God's grace sufficiently supplies all of our needs, even opportunities to face our negative emotions and to seek His wisdom and guidance in resolving them.

Getting alone with God to give our self a chance to hear His voice and to listen to His wisdom and guidance is a wise habit. Without the distractions of other people making demands on us, we can focus - totally listening to God. His faithful presence abides within us.

We can view loneliness as a chance to increase our intimacy with God. Reading His Word, and spending dedicated time praising Him for who He is, and for His specific provision and blessings in our life, and walking in His Spirit will improve our unity with God.

We can also take part in group activities such as clubs that promote Bible studies, charitable activities, woodworking, biking or hiking, book reading together, craft classes, sporting events such as bowling or tennis, board games like checkers or chess, etc.

If we vegetate in front of the TV, play endless computerized games, or surf social media sites all day, this makes us feel even lonelier or more depressed and isolated. Listening to uplifting music, reading inspirational books and articles, teaching a class, asking God for wisdom on how to change negative thoughts and attitudes, etc. diminishes loneliness.

Prayer:
Father God, remind us that Your Word is full of comfort for us, especially the Psalms, because King David lost his mentor - King Saul. He also lost his best friend - Saul's son Jonathan, as well as his home, and at times his country and his family; therefore His words bring comfort to our soul in lonely times. Help us not to dwell on our negative circumstances or on the fact that family and friends are too busy to include us in their life.

Remind us to follow Your Spirit's leading in how to spend our time and attention. You may have ministry for us to do in our church and community; so give us the courage to step out in faith and volunteer, or to take a job that helps other people. We can even start a support group for people who feel lonely, or even just befriend one other person that we see struggling with loneliness too.

Thought for the Day:
If we have preconceived expectations of how and when God should answer our prayers, and He does not do it our way, and this may increase our feelings of isolation; however, waiting on the Lord, and entering His rest, will give us joy and peace that will help us to see God's hand during our negative circumstances.
- Proverbs 5:21; Matthew 26:36-46