Relating
is a fine art that facilitates intimacy in any union; however, it is often
impossible with some people, and extremely difficult with others. Then, there
are those with whom we have an immediate link and a lasting and intimate
relationship.
We
enjoy unhindered chats, common interests, an emotional flow and intellectual
connections. Yet, we injure our harmony by focusing on our self and taking each
other for granted. We stop valuing our relationship as we once did, and grow
tired of one another.
We
lose respect for one another, and we no longer cherish our relationship.
Thinking of each other's faults, rather than our individual strengths, using
humorous teasing as a slight, showing disrespect, and taking each other for
granted will ruin the most intimate of unions.
The
longer we know someone, the easier it is to disengage from them emotionally;
especially if they are destructive or punitive in the relationship. We tire of
making the constant effort to bridge any gaps between us, and we give up.
Making
our relationship a priority will switch our outlook and emphasis on our
friendships - even with our spouse, children and extended family. We schedule
time to hang out, relax, play, talk and plan activities together. We continually
respect each other's viewpoint, thoughts, feelings, needs and time.
Viewing
our connection as a priority in our relationships is paramount for our success.
We fan the flames of our interest in the other person by spending time
together, really listening to their side of the conversation, reading between
the lines of what they say, and showing compassion for them.
Prayer:
Father
God, help us to develop trust, to maintain open and honest communication, as
well as empathy and compassion with the special people in our life. Teach us
empathy with others in our life, and to honestly communicate our needs to each
other, taking each other seriously and helping one another to feel cherished
and respected.
Help
us not to allow hurt feelings, resentment, anger, disapproval, frustration and
bitterness to overcome any feelings of love and enjoyment that we initially
felt in each other's company. Teach us not to speak disrespectfully, to
criticize, or to grow to actually hate each other. Remind us to submit together
to Your Spirit in all of our relationships and to bless one another in Jesus'
name.
Thought
for the Day:
We
do not need to repay insult with insult, but simply explain our actions and
share our feelings calmly and without accusation; then we can forgive those who
continue to falsely accuse us, because we are called to take the higher ground;
if we do, we will receive God’s blessings. - 1 Peter 3:9
